14 Best Vibrators for Women How to Choose a Sex Toy
The shorter, rounded piece of the Snail Vibe Curve acts as the external arm, Weiss explains, while the straight end can provide up to five inches of penetration. The coiled shape of the smaller arm allows it to stay in contact with your clit, even as you push and pull the toy, she says. Since the entire silicone snail is flexible, you can slide the longer end in just a little, or all the way—the “shell” part of the toy unfurls as you insert the toy deeper. In my opinion, this is an improvement over other rabbit vibes that have shorter arms that can’t reach your clit unless the other end is fully inside your vagina.
Unsurprisingly, it was among the first personal devices electrified, only falling behind the sewing machine, fan, tea kettle and toaster. I’d brought Eva along with me in the black silk carrying bag it comes with, and I tried to sneak the vibrator in before we started doing the deed. “Wait,” said Dave, “I want to see how this thing works.” Already, the vibrator was starting to get in the way of sexy time. I showed him the technique I had now mastered, and we proceeded to have sex. Instead of simply whipping Eva out in the bedroom, I thought it best to check in with Dave beforehand to see if he’d be cool with it.
In showing your partner how you like to be touched and vice versa, you can then pleasure each other using your sex toys. Silicone sex toys are prone to attracting dust, so after washing, dry them with a hair dryer (on the coolest setting) and store them safely. If you’re a stickler for cleanliness, give your toys a wash before using them too to stay extra safe.
As unique as this option may look in my collection of microphone-shaped wand vibes, the curved head makes it easier to hit my hot spots. Often, my wrist cramps up and my arms tucker out from holding a vibrator at the angle I need to pleasure myself—but I’ve never had that problem with the ergonomic Mega Massager. I also love that this budget-friendly pick includes a knobby silicone sleeve that can slide over the smooth attachment for some extra texture. This wand vibrator comes highly recommended by Jessica O’Reilly, PhD, host of the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast and co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay.
Just know that silicone-based lube can cause silicone sex toys to break down over time. Instead, try water-based lube, which is usually a safe, solid choice for most toys, as SELF has previously reported. Bullet vibrators are tiny sex toys with a pointed tip for targeted external sensation. Many can fit inside a strap-on harness for additional stimulation during pegging and other strap-on sex acts, according to Wright. Egg vibrators are also easy to tuck away and hide, but their round shape fits more comfortably in the palm of your hand. If you enjoy dual stimulation with a nice range of intensity options, Dr. O’Reilly says this two-in-one toy from Lovehoney is a great pick.
Your vibrator will usually come with a little booklet, including instructions for use and other important safety and maintenance information. In the very least, reading the instructions will give you a rundown of the controls. It’s useful to know, before you take it on a test drive, how to turn your vibrator on and off, as well as how to change between any different vibration patterns and speeds. That menu reads like a Greek diner’s when you see how varied the best male sex toys are these days.
I usually have no interest in patterns , but the wave is better than the pulse, if only because it’s a continuous sensation whereas the pulse felt like someone playing staccato on my clit. What looks like one of those shapes from an ’80s-era airport carpet is actually a vibrating cock ring doing the maximum amount possible. For you, twin rings wrap around both your shaft and balls to boost erection strength and sensitivity. For your partner viberators, the removable vibrator up top shimmies on her clit, while the anal bead extension penetrates their back entrance. For a partner with a double-penetration fantasy, this the vibrating cock ring of both your dreams. The Dame Pom sets itself apart from traditional vibrators in a few ways, as it’s extremely bendy and flexible.
“Tongue vibrators are unique in that they mimic the sensation of oral sex,” says Nolan. In purchasing your first vibrator, my first recommendation is that you make an investment. You may be tempted to buy something cheap if you’ve never used a sex toy before, but I really think you’re better served saving up your pennies to buy a high-quality product.
